The mythology behind being female

The Mythology behind being female:

Emily Sturgill

Thursday, March 26, 2015

The Mythology behind being female:

We are taught from the time

we are very little that what matters most

is how you look on the outside

not how you really feel.

Are you pretty enough?

No, well then we have lots of stuff

let’s add some eyeliner, lipstick and a bit of blush.

Do not dress like a tomboy or wear your sweatpants

outside the house.

Do not forget to paste a smile and pretend it’s all better

because all those teardrops darling

will turn to rust

because it’s the outside the matters most

it’s the pastel shingles on your exterior house

do not show them your true colors

don’t display fear like a mouse

don’t throw tantrums like children do

it’s unbecoming beneath the beauty

of you.

The Mythology behind being female:

Do not forget to paste a smile and pretend it’s all better

because all those teardrops darling

will turn to rust.

The mythology of being female

suggests a magical facade, and a white picket fence.

Girls should never get angry, defensive or dirty.

Girls should always play nice.

But sometimes the wildness in me

unleashes a feminist and I feel

like my exterior has cracks, my mascara runs, I get angry

I cry easily, I put on those ugly sweatpants

and I refuse to act lady like.

I embrace all my curves, the ones I was “taught”

are called ugly or fat.

The Mythology behind being female:

Sometimes despite the Mythology of being Female

I get annoyed, I get outraged, and I fight back.

against all the stereotypes that say

I should always put others first.

I should always play nice.

I should look pretty

and put a smile of my face.

because sometimes even when

I am trying to blend in

even when I am attempting to be

the ideal perfect version of me?

sometimes I just do not care at all.

 

Do not forget to paste a smile and pretend it’s all better

because all those teardrops darling

will turn to rust, then what comes next?

Nobody likes hanging out with a hurricane.

Nobody enjoys an un-lady like version

of crass, profane, selfish, uncompassionate

messy looking, emotional lunacy

a loud version of profanity

and ultimately a vulgar shadow

of a hysterical woman

this collides with the Mythology of being

female.

 

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Free Kindle Ebook Promotion: starts tomorrow!

My first self-published poetry and artist chapbook was inspired by writing this blog. It was published in Jan 2013. It’s called,”Sex and the Kitchen Sink: poetry and art.” by Emily Sturgill. Starting tomorrow through November 2, 2014 it will be absolutely FREE to download for your kindle reading device. HERE is a link:

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This is a brief description: This is a e chapbook of poetry and some artwork that I created myself. Some of the artwork listed is under my maiden last name, Cato, because I created it before I was married.This book is roughly 26 pages long and most of the poetry is quite recent.

Here are some of the reviews:

Reviews

4.3 out of 5 stars
(3)
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
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This is the shortest volume of poet/indie-author Emily Sturgll’s artist chapbooks. In the opening part she writes: “Poetry distracts me from going over the edge.” Sturgill holds a MFA in art education and art therapy from Wayne State University, Detroit, MI. The title of this chapbook is also the title of her blog. I’d like to add, that this chapbook isn’t about sex. Sturgill has written quite articulately with powerful emotional clarity about the daily challenges of living with mental illness, namely Bipolar Disorder – known also as manic depressive illness. Sturgill is a mental health advocate, working in her local community and promotes creative artistic expression through social media and public forum.

In Randomness in the AM: Sturgill discusses the “balance beam” and mood swing of her illness, where in the space of just a few minutes she feels as if she has lived a lifetime. Her medications, lithium, being like the finest of dark chocolate. Seroquel and Klonopin are needed for her mental stability. The awareness that people may speak about her in hushed tones. There are more mentally ill people then most know of, they are often homeless, in prison, or living in Adult Foster Care Homes. Cold Chill: is about the Detroit area cold winters, her concern for the homeless/squatters living in abandoned buildings. “from the inside out” features Ravin Starr: A slick plus size, chain smoking, unwelcome house guest, usually up to no good.. and Sturgill’s alter-ego. Holiday blues are covered in the poem: “Dr. Depression” stopped by pulling a hearse instead of reindeer, bringing fear instead of cheer. The short essay immediately following urges those who face suicidal depression to seek the help that is readily available. “Psychiatrist” is about Sturgill’s experience with therapy, and how her psychiatrist at CMH (Community Mental Health) really helped her, earning her trust and respect. Sturgill writes about her sweetest love for her husband, a unique unicorn, with a balding head and many tough guy tattoos in: “If I Say I Love You”.

Favorite art works include:
Fire and Ice: (painting, 1996), The Black Cat: (altered photography, undated), Gather Rose: (collage, undated)
Many thanks and much appreciation for the Kindle promotional copy.

 5.0 out of 5 stars An easy and entertaining read August 23, 2013
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This book was an exceptionally easy and very entertaining read which is why I believe that it warrants its 5 star review. There were a few editing errors in the book, but they in no way detracted from its appeal and may have even added to it in my opinion. The book deals with the very serious issue of mental illness from the perspective of the author who unabashedly shares some of her thoughts and life experiences. I found the book so riveting that I needed to read it more than once. As a bonus you will also get to see the outstanding artwork of this very talented individual. I would highly recommend this book.
4.0 out of 5 stars A Modern Poetic Voice January 21, 2013
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Really like this. It is more than poetry. It is a reality show. You follow
Emily Sturgill through her mornings, her days, her life. You are there.
It is prose-poetry actually. Very neurotic and if you enjoy the neurotic
then you will like this, if you do not, then “beware!”But I loved it.

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I hope if any new readers choose to download this short chapbook that they enjoy both the poetry and the artwork.
I do have other books available. Please visit my Amazon.com’s Author’s page for more info. It is https://www.amazon.com/author/emilysturgill
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